I wasn't going to post this here but you guys have been awesome with support, advise etc that I figured why not...
Background --------- happily married for 10 years, 2 boys 7&9, very supportive husband or so I thought.
Throughout the pre-application and application process he was my cheerleader. Go go go!!!! Well I went and got accepted and he appeared thrilled.......... then BANG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Out of nowhere, he is depressed, feeling overwhelmed, scared to death of this process. FYI - I will be living on campus from Mon mornings until Fri afternoon for the 1st year, it is a front loaded program. So I will be absent during the week and we discussed that and agreed on it. So WTF???????????? Pardon my language.
Now I feel hopeless that if we are already having problems that our marriage will not survive. He actually asked me to put off attending and try to get into another school that is within driving distance. Mind you I didn't even get an interview at this school so what's the chance of getting in later.
So here is what I am facing
1. Go to school and hope that we will be okay (FYI - I am a take charge person and we are in counseling to deal with this issue) I found out he felt this way last week and we went to see a marriage counselor this Monday. So we are not just sitting down we are trying to figure it out. I think we are at this point because we did have a good foundation.. anyway back to the topic. I feel like my choice is to go to school so that I have my education when and if the marriage doesn't work. I feel like it was wrong of him to ask me to chose between my education and dreams and my family especially since he knows that the choice is a no win situation. Damn if I do and damn if I don't so I fell like I have to.....just in case.
2. My second option is to not go to school and focus on my family and hope that I will never develop regrets and blame him for putting me in this situation. I doubt that it won't break us in the future. Afterall this was not a decision that was made on a spur of the moment.
Anyway.......... I welcome all thoughts because I never saw this coming!!! Thanks all.