Relationships

[Underinjection82]

Hey all,

It is obvious that every CRNA program totally kills your time and energy, thus making it very hard to have any type of relationship. I am currently dating a couple girls and I am trying to figure out which one is best to hold onto during this journey? What are everyones views on the following:

1) The "perfect" mate to be with during the CRNA program? (Of course noone is perfect, but you knwo what I mean)

2) What warning signs prompt immediate termination of a relationship to prevent future issues during the program?

3) Not getting involved at all whatsoever is best?

Thanks everyone!
Brian

[tony75]

:eek5: oh man, I see this thread heading somewhere :Flush:

I cannot give you any advice cuase I did not start yet, but im pretty sure its safe to say your atleast gonna have to narrow it down to one when you start.

tony

[ethernaut]

i can't believe this IS a thread.
maybe you should write ann landers.

i can't believe i'm responding to this..

[Underinjection82]

Haha no I am being serious. In some ways I feel it would be nice to have a girlfriend during CRNA school but there are certain qualities they have to contain in order for it to work. I was just asking what these qualities are. There is no way I would date more than one person during CRNA school...

Brian

[RAYMAN]

I think the perfect partner during school is the one named Rosy.

[Chaos]

Here's a suggestion: Tell both of them you'll be in school for 2.5 years, will come home and feel completely emasculated but have to study all night. Then ask them if they'd be willing to be ignored but cook and clean up after you, buy groceries and survive on nothing for money or get a job to support you. I might throw in telling them you are dating more than just her and you're trying to make a decision between her and some other girl. See which one sticks around and hope they haven't been to gaswork.com.

Good luck

[Underinjection82]

There is no serious dating going on here at all. I am pretty sure the one girl is talking to some other guy also. I am in the "talking" phase of dating each girl, nothing serious. The only question I really had was whether or not everyone thought it was best to cut all ties and be single during anesthetist school or if I should take the risk in being with someone during school?

Brian

[CaraSRNA]

I can't believe I'm actually responding to this either but...You won't want to be bogged down with silly dating bullsh*t during school- cut all ties and you will see what I mean when you start school...

[spearfisher]

I totally agree with: Ether, Rayman and Cara. And btw, i can NOT believe you asked that. I almost snorted coke up my nose i laughed so hard when i read this. Thanks dude. I NEEDED a good laugh.

[assilem]

Hard enough when you're married! I'm sure that there are statistics out there regarding divorce rates and grad school.

[ethernaut]

I totally agree with: Ether, Rayman and Cara. And btw, i can NOT believe you asked that. I almost snorted coke up my nose i laughed so hard when i read this. Thanks dude. I NEEDED a good laugh.
lay off the drugs.
you shouldn't disclose this on a public forum!!!!:beerglass:

[RAYMAN]

I totally agree with: Ether, Rayman and Cara. And btw, i can NOT believe you asked that. I almost snorted coke up my nose i laughed so hard when i read this. Thanks dude. I NEEDED a good laugh.


Don't do that.....look at George Carlin!

[RAYMAN]

Or plan B....find some psycho chick, and we all know what they are good at, and hang on to her for a couple of years to relieve those pre-exam jitters....worked for me years ago.

[ethernaut]

Or plan B....find some psycho chick, and we all know what they are good at, and hang on to her to relieve those pre-exam jitters....worked for me years ago.
how they managed to hide the bulge in their panties from you - must've been a great tucker...

[Underinjection82]

Glad it gave you a laugh but I really dont understand what is so ridiculous about the question? I have about 2 1/2 years before I will start CRNA school which is plenty of time for a relationship to mold.. I was basically asking whether or not I should avoid relationships completely until I finish school because it seems like they can mess with your head due to the intensity of school. I did not realise I needed to get so in depth because obviously most of you thought I was starting class in a couple months, and was going to try and manage dating multiple girls with school, hahaha. Anyway, I will figure it out on my own.

Brian

[RAYMAN]

Ok, how about reality. There are some people in my class that have had a successful dating relationship...you gotta have some balance so you don't become like ethernaut. Just remember that things can happen....if she is with you through school....you have a lapse in birth control....can you say: show me the money?

[RAYMAN]

how they managed to hide the bulge in their panties from you - must've been a great tucker...


I have no idea what you are talking about....we obviously hang out with a different class of people.

[ethernaut]

Glad it gave you a laugh but I really dont understand what is so ridiculous about the question? I have about 2 1/2 years before I will start CRNA school which is plenty of time for a relationship to mold.. I was basically asking whether or not I should avoid relationships completely until I finish school because it seems like they can mess with your head due to the intensity of school. I did not realise I needed to get so in depth because obviously most of you thought I was starting class in a couple months, and was going to try and manage dating multiple girls with school, hahaha. Anyway, I will figure it out on my own.

Brian
good for you there, buckaroo.
hang in there.
it'll work itself out.
stay strong and keep that chin up.
heck, who knows, you might even get married
BEFORE school.
now THERE's a keeper!!!:crucified:

[ethernaut]

Ok, how about reality. There are some people in my class that have had a successful dating relationship...you gotta have some balance so you don't become like ethernaut. Just remember that things can happen....if she is with you through school....you have a lapse in birth control....can you say: show me the money?
:crying:

[MmacFN]

New relationships require alot of time and work. You will have neither to offer.

I suggest that you work on friends with benefits

[RAYMAN]

New relationships require alot of time and work. You will have neither to offer.

I suggest that you work on friends with benefits


As per my previous post.....Mike just says it so much better. hehe

[Happyin09]

i can't believe this IS a thread.
maybe you should write ann landers.

i can't believe i'm responding to this..

Ha-fn-larious!!! :pound:

[Happyin09]

There is no serious dating going on here at all. I am pretty sure the one girl is talking to some other guy also. I am in the "talking" phase of dating each girl, nothing serious. The only question I really had was whether or not everyone thought it was best to cut all ties and be single during anesthetist school or if I should take the risk in being with someone during school?

Brian

You know what you should do?... You should get back to this thread after your first semester... believe me, you will answer your own questions. By then the only close relationship you are going to have is with your pillow and even that one is going to be rocky, since you won't see it much. I mean common... what are your worries? Have a good time NOW,cause buddy it's about to end for quite some time. If you still trying to decide which one of those girls to keep than I say the one who will support you and your periodical nervous breakdowns, cook and clean and do your laundry... and willing to have sex once a month (if even that many times... you will be very tired). I mean... it does get better though...

[MmacFN]

Benefits....

friends.....

[Happyin09]

New relationships require alot of time and work. You will have neither to offer.

I suggest that you work on friends with benefits


Oh, my God! I think I just fel in love... again. ;) LOL
I could not put better words together... even in Russian. :pound:

[rjkt]

New relationships require alot of time and work. You will have neither to offer.

I suggest that you work on friends with benefits

But wait, is that in your program or some one outside...:pound:

[MmacFN]

Ooo

I go outside the program... dont shit where you eat... yah know...




But wait, is that in your program or some one outside...:pound:

[rjkt]

Ooo

I go outside the program... dont shit where you eat... yah know...

Ahhh I see wise one....

[Underinjection82]

Hahaha you guys crack me up. Yea I am getting the gist... No relationship for me before school, because I need total focus on the topics at hand. The only reason why I asked about any of this is because I could imagine it getting pretty damn lonely during CRNA school, especially when you have your breakdowns. Thanks for everyones imput.

Brian

[beekahx4]

jeez why don't you worry about shit when it comes up? You are going to kill yourself from stress worrying about shit that hasn't even happened yet. Worry about your job 1st. Go out, go on some dates. you got a while before you even get to school apps. Who knows if you will even like ICU or even stay in 1 unit so long. I mean seriously do you even think about these questions before you post them up? If your trying to make ppl laugh than you have succeeded.

Go read How to Live Life and Stop Worrying by Dale Carnegie. Any problem you have can be solved by his techniques. This is ridiculous.

[LouCRNA]

jeez why don't you worry about shit when it comes up? You are going to kill yourself from stress worrying about shit that hasn't even happened yet. Worry about your job 1st. Go out, go on some dates. you got a while before you even get to school apps. Who knows if you will even like ICU or even stay in 1 unit so long. I mean seriously do you even think about these questions before you post them up? If your trying to make ppl laugh than you have succeeded.

Go read How to Live Life and Stop Worrying by Dale Carnegie. Any problem you have can be solved by his techniques. This is ridiculous.
lol! Go get him tiger! :)

Seriously though...you know how people say that there's no such thing as a dumb question? They're wrong... there are indeed goofy questions.

[MmacFN]

I say "hit it and quit it". At least thats what I keep hearing all the 20 somethings say..... yer single and young, i say go for it.

[ethernaut]

I say "hit it and quit it". At least thats what I keep hearing all the 20 somethings say..... yer single and young, i say go for it.

is that like "set it and forget it" ?
it's worked well for the crockpot well over 50+ years...

[SodiumChannelMyGrundle]

What I would recommend is fiercely excercising your forearms for the next 2.5 years while watching disgusting D rated porno flick trailers ( I doubt you would splurge on an entire DVD). After that once you get into CRNA school try to bang some broad in your class.

Just my 2 cents.

[skipaway]

What I would recommend is fiercely excercising your forearms for the next 2.5 years while watching disgusting D rated porno flick trailers ( I doubt you would splurge on an entire DVD). After that once you get into CRNA school try to bang some broad in your class.
Just my 2 cents.
I edited out what I really said after thinking awhile. But Sodium.....I'm offended by your last statement. The women in CRNA school are intelligent, hardworking, nurses. They are in school just the same as any male to follow a dream and become a CRNA, not to be "banged". I would hope that if your daughter, sister, mother or aunt were in CRNA school, some male would not be looking at them that way.

Just my 2 cents.

[SodiumChannelMyGrundle]

I edited out what I really said after thinking awhile. But Sodium.....I'm offended by your last statement. The women in CRNA school are intelligent, hardworking, nurses. They are in school just the same as any male to follow a dream and become a CRNA, not to be "banged". I would hope that if your daughter, sister, mother or aunt were in CRNA school, some male would not be looking at them that way.

Just my 2 cents.

Of course, women are intelligent, hardworking etc. I was merely replying to a dumb thread with a dumb post of my own. I apologize if i offended anyone with my language.

[skipaway]

Of course, women are intelligent, hardworking etc. I was merely replying to a dumb thread with a dumb post of my own. I apologize if i offended anyone with my language.
Accepted. Thanks

[Sleptym]

Sex once a month? Are you suggesting he marry her......? :smlove2:

[Rob]

So snorting coke helps?

[kitkatcrna]

This was absolutely an unbelieveable thread to begin with, but my best guess and number one vote would be for a FWB!!!

[Sleptym]

So snorting coke helps?
Rob:

Do you remember the "good old days" when you'd take a girl out on a date for a Coke and she'd put the straw in her mouth, instead of in her nose......? Ahhhh, the good old days....... :nono:

[ethernaut]

who the he!! keeps bumping this godd am thread???

[Sleptym]

Ether:

Well, I guess you did by responding to it, just like I did....... :deadhorse:

[RN29306]

bump

:box2:

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Go out and get some sunshine there pasty.

[sterling]

Ok - from a female view- ditch them both. I had a long term/live in BF prior to school and he was/is supportive so we are fine - but it is hard and adds extra demands. You are not yourself so if you are trying to est a relationship - which you will be doing - it will not be beneficial. Just say chow and go to school - I am half way thru and trust me - it's not worth it. Plus - I am now a very boring/no fun person. Used to be tons of fun! Damn school - but worth it!

[Gasman2]

Polygamy is where its at. You already have yourself two so why settle on one..

[beekahx4]

Wow, interesting...
What would you say to someone with kids? Maybe find them a good foster mom and send daddy on a trip to LA every weekend?:beerglass: Forget about your family, divorce, remarry after school and live happily ever after? After all, nothing else matters except of being a CRNA.
:pound:
Or, maybe, find the perfect partner, who would be committed to live without love, sex, communication, or other less important things in the gross picture of increasing the family income????:flybye:

Is the philosophy of the schools you have attended: Kill yourself if you do not want to kill others? Do they put you to sleep for few years?
Are you writing this from a state of sedation?
I would rather keep my family than become a CRNA. After all, what is the alternative price of your education? If you are not healthy, you can not take care of other people. So, I would decide to keep my relationship/s or family and go to school, I guess. What do you think about that? :smlove2:


The gross picture is not only about the money. If that is what you see then you should just forget about this profession. There are many posts on why people want to become CRNAs. Do a search and educate yourself. Do not knock someone elses endeavors because you cannot do what they do.

*for you self righteous no-nonsense folks who can't understand humor pls do not read any further*
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[MmacFN]

Hey pepita


Just so you understand, the school couldnt care less if you have kids are married or need "family time" They REALLY dont care. You will have no choice but to meet the obligations of school AT THE EXPENSE of your family. I see it with all my classmates who are married (like me) and those who have kids.

You will be expected to put in 60-70 hours a week between clinical, study etc without ANY consideration for what your current "situation" is.

Just be prepared, and if your not willing, CRNA school isnt for you.

[JumpNurse]

Hi Mike,

Thank you for the objective information about the schools and the expected expenses. I still have a lot of time to think about it.
That is too bad for families. These students are not 19 and the schools should consider making the program more attractive. Maybe it should be longer, or some courses should be taken as prerequisites. I know it can be done the way it is now, but why not improve it? I just know from personal experience, that a strong family is a ground for building successes. One is more concentrated, settled and supported. I know what it means to sacrifice all that you have in the name of your profession, because I have done it many times and all these times were the most difficult in my life. Is it worthy? That is a philosophy.. Should this be the dilemma for any advanced nursing student? NO
Cheers

Good luck with that. With multiple applicants for every seat, I don't see that changing anytime soon.

[RAYMAN]

Hi Mike,

I know it can be done the way it is now, but why not improve it? I just know from personal experience, that a strong family is a ground for building successes. One is more concentrated, settled and supported. I know what it means to sacrifice all that you have in the name of your profession, because I have done it many times and all these times were the most difficult in my life. Is it worthy? That is a philosophy.. Should this be the dilemma for any advanced nursing student? NO.

Cheers


You ain't seen nothing yet

[perhayem]

The gross picture is not only about the money. If that is what you see then you should just forget about this profession. There are many posts on why people want to become CRNAs. Do a search and educate yourself. Do not knock someone elses endeavors because you cannot do what they do.

*for you self righteous no-nonsense folks who can't understand humor pls do not read any further*
You have attempted to join the conversation with a wild and dangerous opinion of your own. Please learn from the following video and whenever speaking your mind only state that you love little kittens.

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I don't know about kittens.... but I really like puppies. ;) lol

[pepita]

You guys should really say that you love kittens or puppies. I love myself, my kids and my husband. PERIOD

[irishasian]

I have supported my husband through both CRNA school and his Neuroscience PhD (we're almost done with that). The timeline of our marriage over the last seven+ years was this: 1) CRNA school (2 1/2 years); 2) Iraq deployment (8 months); 3) PhD program (4 years). Somehow, during all this insanity, we also managed to have 3 kids, all of whom entered the world in somewhat dramatic premature fashions.

To answer your question, maybe the best quality you could look for in a mate would be to find a woman who is patient and flexible and able to perservere no matter how many insane situations you put her through. But I gotta be honest here, there is no way I would have put up with half of this nuttiness if we weren't legally joined together, so maybe you should just focus on getting through school and having a little fun every now and then. You'll have more than enough time to settle down afterwards!