Same CRNA school as boyfriend or not????

[j03113]

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[bettermj]

May I please ask for any opinions regarding my current situation? I got accepted in to 2 different schools: University of Pittsburgh and Excela Health. Pitt is (almost by far) the better school - I'll see much more in clinicals and they have a wonderful reputation, plus every student who attends there absolutely loves it! Excela is definitely more convenient for me location wise and my boyfriend was accepted there, too. Do you think we should go to the same school? We also attended nursing school together (ADN and BSN) and work in ICU together. So, needless to say, we work well together, but do you think it's worth it passing up the better school so that I'll have someone close to me to study with? I am so confused and keep going back and forth on the issue. What are employers REALLY looking for? In the end, I really want to be able to find a job, just like anyone else. I know that school is mostly what you make it, but I don't want to have any regrets or look back thinking "I could have gone there..." But at the same time, I think it'd be easier to keep my relationship together if we go to the same school (been together for 4 years, very committed to each other, boyfriend supportive of either choice I make but does agree that it'd be easier on our relationship if we go to the same school, plus can study together/lean on each other). Any thoughts??? HELP!!!!

Oh, and how far does everyone travel to school every day? If I go to Pitt, I'd have to drive a little over an hour every day, which also throws a wrench in to things. I keep wavering back and forth on if I'm willing to do that, but for the caliber of the school, I probably would. Hmmm.

Do you have a ring on your finger?


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[j03113]

No

[bettermj]

No. We've talked about getting married and he has told me in the past that he wants to propose, but I think it's just smarter to wait until after school. I'M actually the one putting it off because I certainly think it's the smarter choice... I want us both to be established first, and plus we're so young (23 and 25), so we have lots of time for that. I will add, also, that we do not live together or anything either.


I wouldn't make my decisions based on any boyfriend... But I have never had a boyfriend.




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[infidel]

I wouldn't make my decisions based on any boyfriend... But I have never had a boyfriend.




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Other than prison ... Neither have I.

[ethernaut]

Dear Noctor Dean Landers:
We've talked about getting married and he has told me in the past that he wants to propose, but I think it's just smarter to wait until after school. I'M actually the one putting it off because I certainly think it's the smarter choice... I want us both to be established first, and plus we're so young (23 and 25), so we have lots of time for that. I will add, also, that we do not live together or anything either.

tell him to propose before school. then, both go to the same program. if you both make it thru school still together, well, there's your test. you were meant for each other. now go take on the day!

Yours,
Nr. Dean Landers, RN CRNA MS CCRN ACLS BSN ADN BLS

[Bad Apple]

Girl to girl here.......

I would say different schools. Once you get started in the program, you might want a new boyfriend. What then???

Being in the same program would be tantamount to being married, at least while you are both there. Everyone will associate the two of you, sometimes causing disadvantages or prejudices.

Both of you will change a lot during the program. There is a realistic chance that you will grow in opposite directions. If you are in the same program, you will be stuck together until the end. That would be a shame. You go to Pitt, tell him to go to Excela. Going through nursing school together and then working in the same unit, you have spent a lot of time with this man already. In your anesthesia program, it will be nice to have your own identity. You might be surprised what you find out if you give yourself some space.

[BluejayBehemoth]

I know nothing about your relationship but it seems like it could lead towards drama if it ended poorly. Do you really want your business broadcast over the school like that if something was to go wrong? Talk with your significant other about it. I think that if you can work together you can "school" together.

On a side note, I've worked in the ICU with my then girlfriend (now wife) and I loved it. We also took statistics together and that did not go so well.

Bottom line, think about it, talk to your girlfriend and come to the best decision for you

[gasaholic]

separate schools. you have no idea what you are about to go through. being grouped together at the same school, well, not a good idea.

the school will change you. You WILL NOT be the same person afterwards. this is a fact. be warned.

It is not nursing school

[RAYMAN]

separate schools. you have no idea what you are about to go through. being grouped together at the same school, well, not a good idea.

the school will change you. You WILL NOT be the same person afterwards. this is a fact. be warned.

It is not nursing school

Yah...agree with faculty too. Weird shit happens to people and couples in school

[Bad Apple]

I see there has been some editing going on here. Maybe the boyfriend is also on the site???

Rule #1 -- don't use your real name here.

Rule #2 -- if there was always an "assumption" that you do would do what he does, it may be time to step back and reconsider things.

Rule #3 -- if attending different programs will end your relationship, then your relationship is not strong enough to survive both of you being in a program anyway, under any circumstances.

Good luck sweetie -- I hope you make the best decision for yourself.

[armygas]

I disagree with not using your real name....... if you feel uncomfortable saying something in public then it is cowardly to hide behind anonymity.

[armygas]

I disagree with not using your real name....... if you feel uncomfortable saying something in public then it is cowardly to hide behind anonymity.

The only exception to that is in regards to COA issues...... PDs tried to bring Mike up on ethics charges for pointing out problems with schools and I can only imagine what they would do to an SRNA who has spent 100k to attend a program.

[candiceena]

I would go with what BadApple said - different schools are better. For the exact reasons she mentioned. This is girl-to-girl as well.

[yankeern]

There is a lot of girl on girl going on here :-p

[gasmonkey]

You girls are really starting to scare me now. :bolt:

[zotmurse]

My wife and I are both currently enrolled in the same CRNA program. We got married shortly before we started. The program is definitely tough but we both knew it would be going into it. If it wasn't for the exceptionally strong relationship we have and the support of our families that live close by, I don't think we would have decided to try and go to the same school together.

[dontquit]

I vote different schools. If you score better than he does..or if he does better in clinical..will throw a wrench into your relationship. No need for that. Go to different schools and offer moral support to each other!

[ethernaut]

I vote different schools. If you score better than he does..or if he does better in clinical..will throw a wrench into your relationship. No need for that. Go to different schools and offer moral support to each other!

maybe, just maaaybe aside from clinical nuances, this "competitive" example you give could/would occur regardless of which ever school either one decided to go to, be it together or separate.